Why is my vegan cheesecake not setting? Ugh!? This is just the cherry on top of a typical day where I struggle with doing to much and not enough all at the same time. Here was my day. I got up at 4:50 am, worked from 6am-2:30pm, drove home; then I remembered that I still needed to go to the pharmacy and fill up my gas tank. I ran those errands, came home, said hi to Yiayia, then began doing dishes and laundry. At some point in there I walked the dog, cleaned up the kitchen; and made dinner and vegan cheesecake. The cheesecake remained jiggly when I took it out of the oven and I was sure it wouldn’t firm up. I figured that I must have done something wrong; I was honestly kind of bummed. I thought I was too busy and didn’t pay enough attention. This seems like a normal thing for me lately. I have so much that I want to get done. Living with your family can be hard because there is always a mess. Sometimes it’s our mess and sometimes it’s not, but I certainly don’t want to leave it there. I want to be a contributing member of our household and I don’t want to leave dishes for other people to do. I am having trouble balancing my day to day chores with what I need to get done for this blog.
I am working on prioritizing my time. Learning to say no is not easy. Sometimes I feel pressured to say yes to things; but I am realizing that my time is my own and I have a right to determine how I use it. Time is precious.
This is me when company comes over/when I need to clean. This may be one of my favorite videos of all time and is a must watch!
I am fortunate to work a 7.5-8 hour day which allows me to be done by 2/2:30pm. This means that I should have plenty of time to do exercise, make dinner, clean, and work on our blog and future plans. In reality this is not happening. I am exhausted when I get home, my feet hurt, and the last thing I want to do is go for a run or start working on something else. This is why mapping out your time can be helpful and a bit less overwhelming. For example; one minute you are planning an exciting trip; the next minute you are trying to find a place for your wife to stay overnight because she has to close the store she manages and open it back up again within just a few hours. This means that we don’t get to see each other; which is the opposite of our goal. This also means that she is working for at least 12 hours per day. This is surely not the norm; but I hate that it’s even an option. We want to change our life style so we can see the world and spend the majority of our time together. We are so excited for our future and we have so many ideas. Even with this excitement, it can be easy to get bogged down in the daily rituals and chores. Sometimes it doesn’t feel like our dream will ever become a reality.
Finding your niche and starting a business is not proving to be easy; just as suspected. I imagine that this is about the time that a lot of people give up because it’s too hard to get started. It’s weird because nothing feels concrete. We have this vision/plan for our life, but we are in this weird middle zone; kind of like a purgatory. Our vision is clear, but the steps to get there are not as visible. It feels like we are stumbling through this time in our life. On one hand, we are blogging, brainstorming, and trying to get our business started On the other hand, we have our regular jobs and duties. We still have to walk the dog, do the dishes, and wake up early. Amanda and I still enjoy spending time with our family and friends as well. This can be hard because it’s a slight distraction, and not all people seem to really grasp what we are going for. Just about everyone is supportive; but not always in a believable sense; and that’s okay.
We have some ideas rolling around about how we can better use our time. Stay tuned for next time…
Today we ate the cheesecake, it set, and was delicious. Life can be frustrating, but if you keep putting in the effort and have a little hope, your likely to get a good cheesecake.
PS: to find more amazing recipes, check out The Minimalist Baker’s Book.
All you need is a suitcase and a playlist.
Cheers, A & M